POLY CONS
Lest we become pollyannaish about polyamory, here are a few for the drawbacks of loving partners that are multiple
JEALOUSY
While also a nagging issue in monogamous relationships, possibilities to experience envy and FOMO are far more typical whenever there are multiple lovers. Those a new comer to poly may feel disgust or even repulsion towards metamours, specially if they have been icked down by getting into secondhand connection with others’ fluids. Feeling jealous is a very emotion that is natural does not mean you’re bad or otherwise not cut right out for polyamory. Nonetheless, it could be really unpleasant to have (on both ends!) and suffering may also become a prophesy that is self-fulfilling. As Shakespeare said, “There is absolutely absolutely absolutely nothing either good or bad but thinking helps it be therefore.” Checking out what exactly is beneath these emotions and just how we quite often unconsciously play away cultural narratives can usually help sort them out.
COMPLEXITY
whilst the feeling of love is numerous, hard work in many cases are scarce resources and polyamory needs plenty of both. Balancing schedules and parenting duties (when children may take place), processing thoughts and relationship characteristics, and striving to generally meet diverse objectives will often make poly feel just like a Cirque du Soleil work. More relationships can mean more heartbreaks also and “growth possibilities.” Often it may all simply feel just like a lot to manage while making one yearn for the sense and simplicity of control (at the very least thought) within monogamous relationships.
HEALTH PROBLEMS
demonstrably, being with numerous lovers, whom on their own might have numerous partners, escalates the possibility of becoming contaminated by having an STD.
